The last 13 years I have had 1 title, MUM, my time has been filled with caring for the children. Mr L was diagnosed with autism at the age of 3 and from that moment I put all of me into fulfilling his needs. He was a difficult toddler, troublesome preschooler and then once he hit the education system it just snowballed. Doing anything for myself was difficult when I wasn't fighting for what he needed I was catching up on sleep that I didn't get when he was awake all night! Mr D was born when Mr L was 3 and Miss S arrived just 14 months later, followed by Mr C 3 years after then. During that time we have had 2 other autism diagnoses and 1 suspected autism case. The diagnoses meant more fighting with the system to get what my children need, balancing 1 child's needs against another child's needs and basically being on the treadmill that is being a Mum.........
You then wake up 1 day and realise that although being a Mum is the best thing in the world I want to do something for me! All of the past 10 years has been about them, it had to be about them, it's what they needed, being a parent is all consuming, but being a special needs parent is so much harder. You just don't have time to do anything for yourself. I have been saying for years that I would like to train as a teaching assistant. My children have had some amazing teaching assistants, without them they wouldn't have got through the education system. This was the main motivator for me wanting to train, I know I can be a good TA, I want to give something back and maybe help a child as much as they have helped mine.
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